and give yourself a break....

I am 47 years old, and when I was your age I was convinced that I was the most unattractive man on earth.  It didn't matter that the editor of GQ magazine had a snapshot of me, shirtless, on the bulletin board behind his desk, or that I had more offers of sex than I knew what to do with.  I did NOT fit the mold of the "hunky" buff young stud, and I couldn't imagine that anyone would find me sexy, despite all the evidence to the contrary. It comes down to this: when you feel like shit, you think you look like shit; and when you think you look like shit, you feel like shit.  Now, 25 years later, I look back at the snapshots from those days and think, Christ, I was BEAUTIFUL! Learn to love yourself, man.  I mean that literally and figuratively. Literally: masturbate in front of mirror, or in the tub, and take all the time you need to explore every part of your body, letting your hands go wherever they want to go...tell yourself how beautiful you are, how beautiful that COCK is!  Because let me tell you, there are plenty of men who are RELIEVED to see that a guy isn't packing 8 inches in his trousers--you can do a lot more with a smaller tool than a huge one.  And if you've ever been fucked, it can be a lot more pleasureable to have a smaller dick inside you than a battering ram.  As for figuratively: this is a lifelong process, and if you have the access and means to seeing a good therapist, do it.  It can change your world.  Otherwise do some self-help reading by gay or gay-friendly writers, and give yourself a break.  Your too damn young to be so down on yourself.  I know because I've been there... Steve

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