and he pumped out a huge load...

Hi, I agree with Seb - you need to forget about orgasm and just enjoy sex. Orgasm is great but sex is nice and enjoyable too, concentrate on your own and your partners pleasure and let what happens happen. My partner told me that the best orgasm he has ever had was when I played with his cock very slowly (he was watching TV) for a long time, telling him all the while that I did not want or intend him to cum. Eventually his desire to climax was irresistible and he pumped out a huge load. - good luck. Baz